Recently, I shared my struggle with feeling pressure to choose to either go back to work or stay at home, when I want to do both. It’s not easy and many new moms have to rush back into work before they feel ready to leave their baby. Others decide to stay home, but struggle with feeling like there is something missing. If you are in either of those camps, I hear you and I understand you. Those feelings and struggles were ultimately what drew me to decide I wanted to find a job that I could do at home so I could spend more time at home with our son. But it hasn’t all been easy! If you are thinking that this option is something you may want to pursue, then I hope this list is helpful to you: (By the way, I don’t like categorizing things as pros/cons, but rather positives and considerations. Considerations aren’t cons, they are just things you have to think about in your decision making!)
- You get to be home with your sweet baby! This time is so precious and they grow up so fast.
- Depending on your job requirements, you can possibly create your own hours, provide financial support while saving on the cost of daycare.
- By not having to go into a formal office/by making your own hours, you can participate in things that are usually more available for stay-at-home moms like MOPS groups and Mom Clubs.
- You can continue to grow your career while you raise your family.
- You will be doing a full-time job (being a mommy) PLUS either part-time or full-time work. I work full-time and some days, it is a big challenge.
- You may not have the flexibility to go out and participate in some of the moms things you want to do. Even if you are only working part-time, it is possibly you will have “work hours” where you need to be available. If so, you may not be able to get to all of those play groups that you want.
- If you work from home, you won’t have a natural group of people to connect with like you do in an office setting. This can be mitigated by joining some moms groups, but it can cause you to feel more isolated and lonely as a new mom. (I know I struggled with this some.)
- It can feel like you are not doing either role (mom and working) very well. Some days are just going to be full of missing deadlines, feeling behind on tasks, a fussy baby, and ultimately leave you feeling totally wiped. Thankfully, these should be rare days, but they will happen.
Moms have to sacrifice a lot no matter what they choose to do. Each decision should be carefully examined, but will ultimately come with some benefits and some challenges.
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