A couple of months ago, I texted my husband about this post, saying that I wanted to share this part of our journey. He was very encouraging (like he always is!), but I was still not sure if I wanted to.
That’s because, today, I am wanting to start sharing about the challenges of conceiving. The world has gotten a lot more aware of the realities of miscarriage and pregnancy loss (praise God for that), but I feel like I always hear about the struggles people have after the fact. Now, what people share is still raw and real. This topic is really difficult and is so unbelievably unique to each pregnancy, not even just each person.
Now, the irony here is that I started writing this and maybe…2 days later found out we were pregnant with our second baby! (Check out our pregnancy announcement.) So, I put this on hold, kind of feeling like it would be hypocritical to write while I was pregnant.
However, the reality is that there are many women out there who have a harrowed journey surrounding getting pregnant in the first place that can last months, years, or a lifetime. I know that this was a struggle for me with conceiving the first time and this second pregnancy doesn’t make that experience any less real. (I shared more about our story in our birth announcement post if you want to read more.)
I’m hoping to share some more candid information, stories, and encouragement about the journey to baby.
For today’s post, I’m going to share some of the things that I learned as I tried to conceive both times:
- Getting pregnant is going to be easy for some people, but it’s going to be hard for a lot of other people. You’ll probably see a lot more posts about people announcing pregnancies super earlier or who got pregnant on the first or second try. (And this is so awesome and exciting and if this is you, please celebrate!) It’s important to know, though, that there are a lot of other people who are struggling whether it just is taking time, or they’ve been unable to carry a successful pregnancy to term, or there are things one or both of you need to fix with your own health.
- You can not be ovulating properly and not realize it. You can have what seems like a period without ovulating. So, if you think that your cycle is “just fine” and “on schedule”, but you are not getting a positive pregnancy test, this could be what is happening.
- Start taking a prenatal vitamin NOW! Getting your body in the best shape possible before you get pregnant is ideal. Now, sometimes, you don’t get this time to prep, but if you do take advantage of it. Also, there are some stories to suggest that getting your body on prenatals early can help reduce morning sickness. Not sure if this is true, but I found this to be the case for me at least! (And have had friends who had similar experiences.)
- Don’t stress out. I mean it. Stressing out about getting pregnant is almost guaranteed to make it more difficult for you. I have no science to back that up, but I do know there is a lot of research that shows that stress throws your whole body out of whack. NOT what you want when trying to get pregnant. I found that tracking my periods and ovulation was just too stress-inducing, so I had to let go of that. You know yourself best, but I would do whatever you can to reduce stress as you are trying to conceive.
Next time, I’ll be sharing more about our journey to baby #2! If you have any questions or topics you’d like me to cover, just reach out with a comment or an email.